For The Love Of A Father


There are days when my father’s voice sounds all sort of nuisance to me, but I guess I’m still young enough to misunderstand until I’m old enough to get a grip on things. I look at my 11-year old sisters and I understand how annoying I can appear to them, although they love me nonetheless. The chores, the consistent nagging… ignorance is such bliss! You get to a stage and realize how “childish” you’ve been. Then you look at the little ones and sigh when they repeat your past flaws.

But as a favourite of God, Ephesians 6:1-3 makes it even easier to deal:

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.”

Besides obedience to my parents classified as the right thing to do, I am also informed that going a step further to honour them comes with a promise. Honour comes in different ways, but obedience expounds it in a larger sense. Here is the sweet part, the promise – “that it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth”. I don’t know about you, but hey, I want to live long with a peaceful mind.

Because of this promise… this picture I see, I can overlook my father’s flaws and honour him anyway.

He talks too much…

He talks too little…

He’s so strict, and won’t allow male friends to visit…

He’s so free that he’ll allow me to do and have just anything I want…

‘Doesn’t he even know me?’

‘He doesn’t even know my friends…’

‘Where was he when I needed him most?’

‘His relationship with mummy isn’t ‘all that’… that’s his weight, not mine’

‘He’s out of date and knows not what’s up…’

No matter which category your father falls under, the law of Ephesians 6:1-3 is without condition and will not favour special cases.

Now, I’m talking of the father who is;

  • a male parent, a father-in-law, stepfather or adoptive father
  • a male ancestor – progenitor
  • a man who exercises paternal care over you. Call him the paternal protector or provider
  • one who has originated or established something (eg. the founding father of…)

Exactly a year ago, my biological father didn’t make the favourite contact list on my phone. I didn’t see the need to call him or even sit by his side when I served him meals, talk of starting a conversation. His strictness pushed me away although I longed so deeply for his love. Along the line, I learned how closeness to one’s father breeds amazing blessings and prevents lack especially in wants. These past few months, I’ve seen my daddy in a totally different light and our relationship seems to be progressing.

After all, he is my father. God had a reason for bringing me through his portal, and it will hurt to the marrow if in the end, I do not experience this amazing blessing accompanied with it.