NO! Bishop Dag Heward-Mills Is NOT Forcing Young People To Marry Only To Fulfill Sexual Desires
When I first read Sena Quashie’s article a few hours ago, I hesitated reacting to it. I thought it was pointless to squelch the opinions of a fellow writer who made it clear in his opening line “before I start this post, I’d like to state very clearly that I identify as Christian” in an article on “how Dag Heward Mills is pushing young people into early marriage just because of the need to fulfill a sexual desire is already preposterous without throwing the whole idea of being a better Christian into the mix.” But I got itchy and concerned about how a Christian would write from a tapered point of view from reading a tweet.
“That was the tweet, a seemingly harmless looking one. With an almost innocuous-looking photo of happy church members”
“I am particularly concerned about Dag Heward Mill’s rather well-packaged and marketed Mandatory Marriage which has decided to use this a fight against fornication to promote its position. The evangelist is essentially trying to say here that sexual desires were created to drive people to marriage, and hence, the solution to the problem is to get people married at the peak of their sex drive, at around the age of 21 or 22.”
Coming from a fellow writer who manipulates words, Mr. Sena Quashie, that was not nice. It was clearly sketchy and inferred some volume of mockery.
When did Christians begin to reason like everyone else? And yes, “everyone else” in this setting speaks of those who do not deny themselves to follow Jesus Christ. Luke 9:23 Then he said to the crowd, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross daily, and follow me”
The world has gradually turned independence into a socially acceptable term for self-regard and egotism. No, you do not NEED more time to find and live for yourself acquiring all the luxury and preparedness. The Bible did not say that. Our life in Christ is to “deny yourself”. Then again, you are a Christian, Sena, and I’m assuming you get this.
Here is what it means to “daily take up your cross” – the cross was a vile emblem of pain, of disgrace, and death. A PERSON hung on it, stark-naked, until his skeletal structure shrunken and he suffocated to death breathless, and with his body drowning itself in its own fluids. Every day we are to live in such a way that it is superficial to everyone that we have died to ourselves, to our selfish ways and ambitions, and live for God.
Allow me to share with you 5 Godly principles which you almost certainly forgot to include in your article about fornication and why Bishop Dag Heward-Mills urges the young church to marry whiles they are young and exuberant:
1 Corinthians 7:2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.”
1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
1 Corinthians 5:1 It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and of a kind that is not tolerated even among pagans, for a man has his father’s wife.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor.
“But statistics show that those who marry later are more likely to stay married” – which statistics? From where? By whom? You ended by saying “and if you feel like having sex, go ahead, have sex…” 😯
I know Christianity is not easy. It is not like God is standing there with a frown on his face, arms folded firmly, with a whole new list of things we can do and things we can’t do. I know this isn’t easy but Mr. Quashie, a Christian does not promote sex before marriage – “and if you feel like having sex, go ahead, have sex” 🙄
Do not say this anywhere ever again; it is you they’ll laugh at, because the world knows Christianity frowns at this terribly.
Again, I could have overlooked this, but my heart bleeds knowing that a Christian who has gifted hands to manipulate words, will write such unpleasant words about a man of God. Your platform has a large following, and I’m pretty sure it must have doubled by your article taking on a man of God, but that is okay. What isn’t, is your advocacy in rescinding the church and promoting fornication among young Christian – that was wrong, simply.
It will be sad to see another post of you getting at another Pastor or man of God for a 21-letter tweet on a sermon which spoke about WISDOM, but I don’t think you knew that, else you would’ve made other reference statements from that particular sermon. Fortunately, I was there.
In the end, I’m writing this back to you because I know that, “anyone who rebukes a mocker will get an insult in return. Anyone who corrects the wicked will get hurt. So don’t bother correcting mockers; they will only hate you. But correct the wise, and they will love you” – Proverbs 9:7-8